Category Archives: Joy of Parenting
Stumbled upon a good story in TOI today, “Kiran Jonnalagadda cleared his PU course after five attempts. And by the time he did it, his friends had completed their engineering course. But Kiran’s story had just begun. This Bangalorean’s name now features in the team that developed the Human Protein Reference Database by John Hopkins University.
What’s really interesting is the count of entrepreneurs, its huge from non academics, may be because they don’t follow a pattern. Here is another interesting article by Naveen Jain, who talks about enormous entrepreneurship opportunities in our education system. It isn’t broken to be fixed, it needs to be reinvented.
“When I think of all the tremendous, seemingly impossible feats made possible by entrepreneurs, I am amazed that more has not been done to reinvent our education system. I want all entrepreneurs to take notice that this is a multi-hundred billion dollar opportunity that’s ripe for disruption”
This was the first week when Shaurya went for his early intervention classes (his first schooling days); he has speech and communication delays. This is not an issue but we are taking the best use of research done in this field to avoid any developmental delays, primarily when he joins school, it shouldn’t become a problem. Last 3-4 weeks has been a roller coaster ride for me, I started to spend majority of time with him while Shaily is in pursuit of her dreams. The time spent with young boy teaches me, I have acquired several new skill sets and I continue to.
Today and yesterday was a big day for Shaurya, he learnt to climb down the stairs and managed to wear shoes on his own, albeit it was wrong.
Out of all this, the most troubled time is which we spend it at “Early Intervention Classes”, several extreme cases of child development gets me worried and my heart goes out for the parents who never give up. I see more struggles daily (in last 5 days) and thus I become more realistic, the world is not as pleasant as we think and probably the view from our window looks always shining. Its one of the toughest learnings I am going through, it has its own emotional drench.
While I continue with my effort to raise a young boy to be a good human being, lot of new learnings in my life are taking place. I will share some of these experiences, for the time being enjoy this poem by Umberto Maturana.
The Student’s Prayer
Don’t impose on me what you know,
I want to explore the unknown
And be the source of my own discoveries.
Let the known be my liberation, not my slavery.
The world of your truth can be my limitation;
Your wisdom my negation.
Don’t instruct me; let’s walk together.
Let my richness begin where yours ends.
Show me so that I can stand
On your shoulders.
Reveal yourself so that I can be
You believe that every human being
Can love and create.
I understand, then, your fear
When I ask you to live according to your wisdom.
You will not know who I am
By listening to yourself.
Don’t instruct me; let me be.
Your failure is that I be identical to you.”
Every child is born with creative potential, but this potential may be stifled if care is not taken to nurture and stimulate creativity. Creativity shows one’s uniqueness. It is the individual saying: “I can be; I can do.” Isn’t this what we want for our children? Creativity is the ability to see things in a new and unusual light, to see problems that no one else may even realize exist, and then come up with new, unusual, and effective solutions to these problems.
Relax the controls. Adults who constantly exert supervision and control diminish the spontaneity and self-confidence that are essential to the creative spirit.
Inspire perseverence. All the creative energy in the world is useless if the product is not seen through to completion. Show appreciation for a child’s efforts. Suppress the impulse to accomplish tasks for children.
Tolerate the “offbeat.” Let children know that it is not always critical to have the “correct” answer to the problem – that novel, innovative, and unique approaches are valued as well.
Provide a creative atmosphere. Creative materials should be available to the young child for his use. Some of the basic equipment includes books, records, drawing materials, objects to make sounds with, clay, and blocks. Toys for imagining: Supply preschoolers with unstructured toys and materials. Provide the child with toys that can become a variety of things. Be careful about discouraging daydreaming. Daydreaming is really an imagery process. Some of what goes on in the name of daydreaming is really problem solving.
Planning and problem-solving. Encourage creative problem solving in a variety of ways. Teach a youngster to look at alternatives, evaluate them, and then decide how to carry them out successfully.
Offer – but do not pressure. Resist the temptation to overcrowd children with organized activities in an attempt to cultivate their creativity. Allow the child time to be alone to develop the creativity that is innate in all of us.
Have the children create a “machine” piece by piece. Some players become parts that move and make noise, while other players operate the machine. Others can then guess what it is. Try making a lawnmower with people as wheels, body, and handle, and have another player push it. Everyone can join in the sound effects as it tackles the lawn. More good objects to role play: eggbeater, record player, garbage disposal, toaster, pencil sharpener, and water fountain.
Someone starts a story and each person adds a part.
CREATIVE DRAMATIC PLAY
One of the best ways children have to express themselves is through creative dramatic play. Here they feel free to express their inner feelings. It occurs daily in the lives of young children, as they
constantly imitate the people, animals, and machines in their world. It helps them understand and deal with the world. Stimulate this spontaneous kind of drama by providing simple props and encouragement.
Animal Cracker Game – Child chooses one cracker; looks at it; then eats it. Then the child becomes that animal for 1-2 minutes.
Read a story and then act it out.
A child can develop and express his or her personality in his own way – pretending to be animals, snowflakes, fairies, giants, snails, mice, etc.
Role playing family happenings, everyday activities such as a visit to the doctor, store or bank, day care situations, etc., stimulates creative thinking and is a good way to help children see the viewpoints of others, help them explore their own feelings, and handle their emotions.
The following are some creative play activities that require the use of
large muscles and help in the development of those muscles:
Follow the Leader – The leader child moves freely about. He or she may
imitate animals, hop, skip, or whatever. The others must follow the
leader and act as the leader does.
Guess What I Am? – Without saying a word, a child tries to act out the
movements of some object. Suggestions include an airplane making a
landing, a rooster strutting around the barnyard, a cement truck dumping
its load, a clock telling the time of day. The child may think up
things to do, or the teacher may whisper suggestions.
Building with Sand, Mud and Clay – Children use large muscles to build
sand mounds with moats around them. Sand pies and sand forts can be
built in a sandbox, on a sand table, or at the beach. Children use mud
to make large structures. Clay is also used to create structures and
Ask open-ended questions: Show the child a picture, then ask questions to stimulate and create a thinking atmosphere, for example: What are the people in the picture doing? What are the people saying? What would happen if …?
Ask children to use their senses: Young children may often have their creative talents stretched by asking them to use their senses in an unusual way.
* Have children close their eyes and then guess what you have placed in their hands – a piece of foam rubber, a small rock, etc.
* Have children close their eyes and guess at what they hear – use such sounds as shuffling cards, jingling coins, rubbing sandpaper, ripping paper, etc.
Ask children about changes: One way to help children to think more creatively is to ask them to change things to make them the way they would like them to be, for example:
* What would taste better if it were sweeter?
* What would be nicer if it were smaller?
* What would be more fun if it were faster?
* What would be better if it were quieter?
* What would be happier if it were bigger?
* What could be more exciting if it went backwards?
Ask questions with lots of answers. Any time you ask a child a question which requires a variety of answers, you are aiding creative thinking skills. Here are some examples using the concept of water:
* What are some of the uses of water?
* What floats in water?
* How does water help us?
* Why is cold water cold?
* What always stays underwater?
* What are the different colors that water can be?
Other concepts: fire, sand, cars, smoke, ice
Ask “What would happen if…” questions. These questions are fun to ask and allow the children to really use their imaginations. Here are some:
* What would happen if all the trees in the world were blue?
* What would happen if all the cars were gone?
* What would happen if everybody wore the same clothes?
* What would happen if you could fly?
* What would happen if no one cleaned the house?
Ask “In how many different ways…” questions. These questions also extend a child’s creative thinking.
* In how many different ways could a spoon be used?
* In how many different ways could a button be used?
* In how many different ways could a string be used?
National Network for Child Care – NNCC. Part of CYFERNET, the National Extension Service Children Youth and Family Educational Research Network. Permission is granted to reproduce these materials in whole or in part for educational purposes only(not for profit beyond the cost of reproduction) provided that the author and Network receive acknowledgment and this notice is included:
Reprinted with permission from the National Network for Child Care –
NNCC. (1993). Creative play helps children grow. In M. Lopes (Ed.)
CareGiver News (October, p. 3). Amherst, MA: University of
Massachusetts Cooperative Extension.